Can I interest you in some cheese?

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(This blog post is for anyone who would rather walk on glass than have to sit through an evening composed of bad hors d’œuvres and nonsensical conversation composed of crap you could give three rats’ asses about.)

Last night I had to undergo the dreaded visit to the in-laws.

(I’m glad I’m not one of those bloggers who actually counts with the support of extended family because it means I’m actually free to write about this stuff.)

The arrival at the in-laws is marked by the significant other’s mother greeting us at the door, ready to take our coats, and remind us to remove our shoes.

This is followed by significant other’s father ushering us to the living room to where a predictable guest already awaits.

This guest would be none other than the significant other’s “still-a-bachelor-even-though-I’m-way-past-forty” brother who’s happy as a clam that we’ve arrived. This because we can act as an audience for his new house digital picture display.

Without even a glass of alcohol to take the edge off the nightmarish evening that awaits me, I’m asked to witness shot after shot of his new bathroom, new living room, new kitchen and new bed.

By the tenth picture I’m ready for the significant other to light me on fire so I can catapult myself from the third floor terrace in a blazing glory.

However, before I can even hand him the matches, out comes the significant other’s mother with a tray of cheese. Yay!

OMG, have these people never heard of real aperitif and why in all these years have I not understood that the only way I’m ever going to eat anything tasty in their home is if I bring it myself?

“No thank you, I will pass on the cheese.” (Why? Because like I’ve told you for the past nine years, I hate cheese.)

“Would it help if I threw in some crackers?”

“No, I’m still going to pass.”

(Perhaps you might interest the significant other with this type of rat food. He seems to be very fond of it. Perhaps this is also why you continue to serve it year after year.)

At this point, the significant other’s brother pulls me out of my reverie as he tugs on my sleeve to remind me his digital frame is still cranking out pictures.

In the meantime, the significant other’s father looks out the window and then looks at me, almost as if suggesting he would like to join me in the “light myself on fire ceremony” followed by the catapult.

“Did you see this one of the toilet? It’s a great shot, isn’t it?”

I would like a shot of anything now to anesthetize me to this mental anguish but instead, out comes the significant other’s mother bearing gifts of coffee and more cheese. This time true to her word, accompanied by crackers.

This further convinces me that somewhere between the first offer of cheese and the time she went into the kitchen, she lost her ability to comprehend English.

“Did you see this shot of my new bed?”

(God I wish I were in bed. Alone without all this black noise, the cheese tray and the ever-changing digital frame.)

How many pictures did he actually take of his bathroom and why are we looking at them anyway?

“Honey, do you want cheese?” significant other asks with a smirk.

“Do you want me to stab you?” I whisper back. “I’ll give you fifty euros if you smash your brother’s frame.”

“I would have done it for twenty”. “Deal. Now go and put it and us out of this misery.”

Almost as if privy to our whispered conversation, the significant other’s brother turns off the frame and carefully puts it away.

“I guess I’ll put the cheese away if no one’s going to eat it.”

(Again in my head) OMG, are we still talking about the cheese?

The significant other’s father still has that look on his face; almost pleading that we commit the double suicide.

I sadly shake my head from side to side, and take a sip of my tepid coffee.

The cuckoo darts out off the clock and reminds us it is now 8pm.

There is a God.

We make a run for the door and shout, “It was great seeing everybody. See you next year.”

Really? That soon?

As we head into the night, we jointly exhale and walk away as fast as out legs can carry us.

When was the last time you had to endure your in-laws?

16 thoughts on “Can I interest you in some cheese?

  1. Maybe fortunately or unfortunately none yet since I have no in-laws to speak of. BUT I hear you because every Chinese New Year, it’s about the relatives making the rounds and asking either about my unmarried status OR how fat I am x 20. But when you hear it 20 times and that is if others don’t chime in, you get pretty frustrated and would much rather break the windows and leap out, never to come back so I’ll avoid them like plague at all cost. In fact, I try to work during the New Year so that I have a reason to stay away.

    1. Those nosy relatives, they’re everywhere like cockroaches! I feel your pain, lady, and since misery loves company, welcome to the party! :)

  2. What’s with people and pics of their toilets? Last year we got a Christmas ‘letter’ from a relative in the US who told us (among lots of other things we didn’t want to know!) that they had renovated their home – the link to pictures included one of the toilets!! My in-laws passed on before I got married, so it’s my husband that has to ‘endure’ my family – who are lovely for the most part, but rather in your face at times!
    Yesterday I saw this and passed it on to him!

  3. Bwa ha ha ha ha! This post was so awesome. I had to show my husband this— too many similarities! HA! I’m so glad you can blog about it freely! I can’t, unfortunately. It would so get back to my inlaws. Keep it coming, Bella! You’re hilarious!

  4. Bella! First team edward (i should of known) and now cheese. I thought we were peas in a pod. Oh well I still adore reading even if you don’t have my love for cheese. I glad to see though we are the same in our dark thoughts when put in unbearable social events. ugh!

  5. You sure the in-laws aren’t reading this? Ho ho. They might find it hilarious! (And, please, next Christmas tuck some of that luscious blue cheese into a napkin, stuff it into your purse, and send it my way.

    1. Jann, I’m certain they’re not reading right now…however, in the future, who knows? By that time we’ll be on to next year’s Christmas nightmare! :)

  6. Fortunately my immediate inlaws are actually likable and not at all people that I prefer to avoid. How can you not love an italian mom and dad that gives you this HUGE gift basket of goodies for xmas and a sack of money to boot?! Merrrrrrry Christmas mamma and papa!

  7. My In-Laws are good to me, my biggest problem is making futile attempts to stop eating (they’re Italian-American)… M-I-L stuffs me to the gills!

    But you can sent the cheese to me! I love cheese.

    1. OMG those fabulous Italians and how they love for their guests to consume plenty. You gotta love them. They remind me of my Spanish relatives!

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