Why are the sand pillow people back?

Visiting the dog park is like visiting an interactive science museum–you never know what you’re going to find.

Sometimes it’s funny.

Other times it’s bizarre.

And sometimes, quite like exhibits that to go on forever, you wish you’d gone somewhere else.

Today was one of those days.

As Roxy and I prepared to walk down our usual path, we stopped dead in our tracks.

In front of us, on a bench, surrounded by dog poop, was a couple going at it like the world was coming to an end in 60 seconds.

Should we turn back?
Walk by and pretend not to see them?

Absolutely not.

I figure, if you’re putting on a show, it’s up to me whether I want to be an audience member.

Or photograph your display of inappropriate public display of affection.

Imagine my dismay upon realizing I’d left my camera at home.

I nearly stomped my foot in frustration.

However, this brought to mind some shots I had taken this summer in Spain.

Excited at the prospect of sharing these with you, I prompted Roxy to relieve herself just two feet from the gasping for air Romeo and Juliet, and rushed home.

As I clicked through the photos, I smiled as I remembered sitting on the beach with the Daughter, our point and shoots ready; scouting for test subjects.

Like paparazzi lying in wait, we crouched under our beach umbrella, snapping photos of couples who felt compelled to share their love with the world.

It mattered not that it was 96 degrees Farenheit, or that they weren’t getting paid for their performance.

Every day there were eager candidates willing to make the throngs on the beach a part of their spectacle.

So what were we supposed to do?

Witness PDA’s day in and day out and not document the process of socialization taking place before our eyes?

I don’t think so.

The way I see it, our lives are never private.

Every day we run the risk of being featured on YouTube, someone’s blog, or as an “extra” in someone’s photograph.

You just never know.

So as a tribute to those who don’t care who witness their PDA’s, I give you some of the people who might have inspired a bartender to name a drink, “Sex on the beach.”


This couple stood like this for 30 minutes straight. We laughed so hard, we almost had to move to another part of the beach.
This guy looked at us as we snapped his "grab and hold" action.
I'll admit it. This couple made me throw up in my mouth a little.
Really, people? Really?
And here's a little Roxy love to start off your weekend.

What are your thoughts on public displays of affection?


52 thoughts on “Why are the sand pillow people back?

  1. Okay, I will admit it, my Husby and I are hand holders. And he has been known to give me a hug. And sometimes even a little kiss. In public. But anyone doing more than that makes me . . . uncomfortable. Get a room!

    1. Diane, I agree. The Signficant Other and I are hard core hand holders and huggers. However, I don’t think these make the majority of people uncomfortable. That said, prolonged exposure to all this “affection” is prone to make people gag. I’m just sayin’. hee hee! :)

  2. I remember being a teenager and kissing my then-boyfriend in public. As in, kissing for 30 minutes or something, and not caring who might watch. It was never a performance (like ten people at the same table, and two of them making out in front of everyone else just to show they are able to find someone who wants to do it with them), it was simply ignoring the rest of the world.

    I’m no longer a teenager, though. Other than holding hands, a hug or a light kiss, our affection remains private. But that’s just the way I like it when I’m concerned — for all I care, people could have sex in public and I’d just ignore them, unless they try to get me involved, in which case i’d become quite unpleasant.

    1. bwhahaha! “Unless they try to get me involoved…” Ivana, you’ve made me laugh! I remember attending “make out” parties when I was adolscent. Gosh, those were fun! hee hee! Now that I have that image in my head, I’m off to a good Friday night start! Thanks! :)

  3. The photo of Roxy made my day! Seriously, do you know what I could be doing for 30 minutes besides standing on the beach holding a guy? Yes, this from the woman who would give up sex for coffee.

  4. A culturally-loaded topic–Italians seem much more comfortable with sexy displays of affection on the street than Americans do, & I’ll never forget when a Japanese friend visited me in the US and was distressed when she saw couples holding hands or walking with their arms around each other.

    1. Jann, you’ve managed to effectively identify how cultural differences influence the way we perceive situations. I too have been able to view things through different lenses and as such, am more open to certain situations than others. However, there are still things that I still find inappropriate and others that I think, what’s the big deal? That said, I can imagine how someone from a low profile country as Japan would find certain PDA’s to be completely unacceptable. Thank you for pointing that out, amica! :)

    1. Kim, and she loves you! :) Thank you for your kind words. Knowing you to be a hard core love fan, something told me this post would agree with you!
      XOXOXO–just for you!

  5. Hmm… I dunno… I don’t mind PDA, especially when I have my camera around. LOL! Watch out! ;-) I enjoyed your photos. Why did the third couple make you want to throw up? What did they do, which was so different from the other couples? LOL! I’m glad you ended with Roxy’s photo. So cute! ;-)

  6. Paz, it wasn’t what they did while I took the photo, it’s what they did right afterward! Ugh! :) And you’re one hundred percent right–a camera is a must if we want to document this little scences of life! Did you like Roxy’s photo? Thank you for your kind words, lady! Have a great one! :)

  7. It’s obvious to me that they were trying to get themselves scouted for a reality porn tv show.

    Actually, pdas don’t bother me much unless they’re being obnoxious and blocking my path. It’s like, at least find a corner! Making out with your man at the foot of the staircase and forcing people to maneuver around you is NOT cool.

    stopping in from the LBS tea party. :-)

    1. Classic NYer, I agree! Sometimes you have to do neck breaking, Spiderman would be proud, moves to avoid becoming a threesome! hee hee! :)

  8. I can’t believe you took picture of me in a bikini! At least I look good. Oh, wait, that’s not me that’s someone who’s thighs don’t look like oatmeal packed in a sausage casing. Sigh. Got to your blog via Lady Bloggers and so happy I made the click! Now following you. Come by and say hello sometime because I think you are too funny and I need the laughs!

    1. Helen, hello and welcome! Thank you for your kinds words. You had me going there with your “I can’t believe you took a picture of me in a bikini!” I was like, oh my goodness! I’ll be dropping by your blog to say hello! :)

  9. Hello from LBS Tea Party! I think she was telling him that it was over and he was hanging on for dear life, not wanting to make THAT scene! The lady with the hand on the hip was letting you know his manly parts were HERS. There’s something weird about upside-down kissing. (Can’t put my finger on it, but it is, nevertheless… The guy with hands on her hips was letting her know that she could do just a few more bends… Great post. Don’t understand why people have to do this. You’d think that would be left in high school. Now, the old guy with the young woman — not his and letting the world know he can afford her… (I’ve got to get some fresh coffee…) Come visit when you can.

    1. Sharlene, bwhahaha! Oh my goodness! thank you for the photo interpretations! You’ve made my day today! I’m still chuckling over the the old guy with the young woman. I will surely drop by for a visit, especially if it means coffee’s ready! :)

    1. Nicole, your confidence in my photography skills just made me grin from ear to ear! hee hee! I’m going to keep practicing and I’ll get back to you! :)

    1. Amy, you have no idea how disappointed I was! Especially because I always walk around with my camera. I think that morning I left it because we got up a bit later and Roxy really had to go. Oh well. Maybe we’ll see them in the dog park again soon, and then I’ll be ready! Stay tuned! :)

  10. A little PDA never hurt anyone… I’ve come to realize this is how some keep the fires stoked, the spice spicy and the passion flowing. I used to be appalled and throw up in my mouth quite a bit but now I think if your clothes stay on and there isn’t any heavy breathing I’m okay with your desire to display affection. Loving out front is fine by me.

    1. Metch, good for you for supporting PDA’s. My Significant Other also says, “Kudos to them,” however, I just feel there’s a place for everything. And the dog park ain’t one of them! :)

  11. As always, Roxy steals the moment. I think I’d settle for a table in on the edge of a blue sea with the waves lapping at my feet sipping something refreshing rather than laying in the sand trying to be sexy because sand is stuck in places the sun is never going to see. At my side of course would be a lanky something or other–smart and engaging–taking about something other than himself…and as the sun burns into the horizon we’d … (you can feel in the where you would want to be).. photos like these only fuel my imagination. I got carried away.

    1. Brenda, you and me, we’ve got to switch romantic imaginations, sister! I love it! You’re such a darn natural with all this love gooey stuff! Seriously, we have to get together for coffee if I’m ever in California! :) Oh, and I’m still giggling over your comment, “in the sand trying to be sexy because sand is stuck in places the sun is never going to see.” Been there, done that! Too bad it was a hundred years ago! Ah, to be young again!

  12. Yep, hand-holding and a smooch or two – everything else is private (unless it’s dark and no ones around, heh heh heh). I’ve seen people having sex in a corner like NO one can see them – it’s NUTS! You can’t wait? Or is it that the sex life is now so dull you have to do things like this to spice it up? I thought these photos were sexy except #4, that was just kinda gross looking. That guy looking at the camera is good looking – wonder what he was thinking just then? Roxy is the best photo of all.

    1. Nan, Roxy is delighted you find her shot to be the best, and so am I! For some reason I thought the guy in the photo looked a little like Antonio Banderas. Wouldn’t you agree? And I’m with you, sister. Hand holding and a quick smooch or two is where I draw the line! :)

    1. Hello and welcome, Elizabeth! Yes, you would figure a place as warm as the Bahamas would be the perfect scenario for out of control PDA’s! What is it about the heat that brings out the wild side of people? :) I’ll be sure to drop by your blog! :)

  13. I’m not one for PDA either unless it carries with it the guarantee that I will embarrass my teenagers ;-)
    PDA and Cultures of the World – it would be a great thesis! Thanks Bella!

    1. Astra, indeed it would make a great thesis! It’s funny you mention the PDAs and teenagers because something I always tell the Significant Other is, lets smooch and embarrass the Son to no end! hee hee! :)

  14. Ah, not sure if I’m doing this right, I joined the Lady Bloggers tea party and was supposed to leave a comment on your recent post..so here it is. Enjoyed your blog and will try to visit it again since I find your posts amusing…and although I’m a cat person, your dog posts I enjoyed as well.

  15. Bella you are shameless, and you know that karma is gonna come back and bite you in the ass! PDA…well, I’m used to the boobs peeking out of low-cut blouses, couples spontaneously hugging and kissing in the metro, and Berlusconi with his under-aged consorts, so….another day of dolce vita in the old country.

    1. Ah Rowena, I envy your ability to transition to the accepted norms of your host country. And you’re right–some day I’m going to be caught on camera, plastered on the front page of someone’s blog or filmed for YouTube. I pray Karma is forgiving! Just remember I do all of this for you! hee hee!

  16. ha! love these, bella. roxie is by far the most lovely, of course – but the other made me laugh/cringe/wonder what’s happening to humanity these days. :) hope you’re doing well!

    1. Nikki, I’ve missed you! So glad to read your comment! I am well, and you? Roxy gets cuter every day! And I’m right with you on your perception of humanity! Don’t be a stranger, lady! :)

  17. HAHAHA! My husband doesn’t care if people see up PDAing, but I most definitely do… So we keep it at a minimum (like hugging or small pecks, maybe some arm in waist action, but that’s it… no more making out with tongues flailing all over the place! I’m not in high school anymore! hahaha) AND we definitely have more clothing on!

    1. Ariana, it wasn’t until today that I saw the kiss during the Vancouver riot photo! Thank you for including the link in your comment! I can always count on you to provide the good “extras!” :)

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