When I first heard the song, “No More Drama,” by Mary J. Blige, I rejoiced.
I thought that finally, all those beseeched by drama had a spokesperson; a union rep who would manifest drama sufferers’ discomfort.
Listening to Mary’s song, I heaved a sigh of relief; grateful I no longer belonged to the drama club.
I had been lucky. I had escaped; broken free from its toxic hold.
One fine day, empowered with the knowledge that I had enough drama in my own life, I had pulled a “Roberto Duran.”
I had exclaimed, “No mas.” No more.
However, those who are still in drama’s chokehold, know that breaking free is no easy feat.
It takes great fortitude, strength, and the ability to distance ourselves from the toxic folk.
Fortunately, my girl Mary woke up to the reality of negativity.
She realized how toxicity, much like a parasite, worms its way into our lives and destroys our peace of mind.
Toxicity: A quality possessed by those known as the toxic folk.
You know who they are.
They’re the constant bearer of bad news; the ones who bring you down.
The gossips, the complainers, the whiners.
They’re the ones who cry poor; the ones who dish dirt out on others, and have a perpetual monkey on their backs.
They’re full of themselves, their stress, and their bad luck.
Life doesn’t cut them slack. God is not on their side. Evil is out to get them.
They’re hexed, cursed, doomed. They hate their lives, their families, their spouses. They can’t catch a break.
Or so they tell you, over, and over, and over.
Like thirsty sponges, they absorb all of your energy.
A conversation with them leaves you feeling spent, exhausted, in need of a nap.
Days turn into weeks, weeks into months, and months into years.
They never change. They’re always the same.
Down on life. Down on their luck. Down on everybody.
They steal your mojo. Suck you dry, and without a shred of thanks, exit your life, only to come back sooner than you expect, ready to grab double helpings of your good chi.
So what do you do?
The only thing you can do: you cut them loose.
It’s the only way.
The toxic folks don’t know the meaning of middle ground; they’re all or nothing.
Cut them loose.
It’s the wise thing to do; the only thing to do if you want to stop them from getting the best of you.
So if you’re feeling like you’re being consumed by the problems of others, like your life is on hold, like you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, you may be a victim of drama.
It’s not too late.
You too can break free.
All it takes is the ability to say, “No more drama.” No mas. No more.
In refusing to engage in the drama of others, you’ll be free to live your life; experience life one day at a time. Your way. And in peace.