The Ancient Greeks engaged in philosophical discussions regarding the nature of love.
They used the terms eros, philia, and agape to describe this irrational emotion that most people aspire to know at some point in their lives.
Eros was characterized by intense desire, philia entailed fondness and appreciation, and agape referred to unconditional love; the highest and the truest kind.
Looking back at my life, I can honestly say that I’ve known eros and philia extensively but agape, that’s a different story.
I believe it takes a certain level of emotional maturity, a certain amount of experience, and the desire to stay committed, come what may.
And while I want to believe I’m on agape’s path, my heart tells me I still have a way to go.
This past weekend, I thought I experienced something that gave me a glimpse into what agape may feel like.
The Significant Other and I strolled leisurely through the market until we made our way to a charming coffee shop we love to frequent.
We were fortunate enough to be seated next to the fireplace.
As he ordered our espressos, I took in the lovely Christmas decorations that adorned the mantle.
The table, being quite small, awarded us the possibility of sitting close together.
The Significant Other gazed at me with affection as he took my hands in his.
I felt an overwhelming sense of connectedness; an intense feeling of well-being.
We sat in silence, feeling the warmth of the fireplace and smiled like silly adolescents.
I noticed that neither of us were striving to fill the voids of silence with idle chatter.
Words were not necessary.
On the contrary, I think if we’d spoken, the moment would’ve been ruined.
I sighed deeply as I thought that perhaps this was what agape was like; no defining structure but instead, a constant flow of contentment.
The aroma of our coffee served to enhance the experience.
It’s lovely scent hung softly in the air.
I wanted to freeze the moment; to bottle up the emotional state we were in to bring out at a later time.
I felt we were on the verge of making agape’s acquaintance.
I held my breath in anticipation.
However, just then, the Significant Other broke the silence.
“If you’re done with your coffee, let’s go. This fire is making my ass sweat.”
I’m afraid we still have a long way to go.