Long after I’d eaten the bruschetta, drank the wine, and hung up the phone, my mind kept wandering to something my sister had said.
“Life is passing us by.”
For days, I’ve pondered if there’s any validity to this statement, or at least, if it applies to my life in any way, shape, or form.
However, my pondering hasn’t been continuous.
I’ve taken breaks.
I’ve let the words sink in; let them marinate.
After all, how can one dismiss or embrace such a statement without first letting it make a fold in one’s cerebral cortex?
As this thought process has taken shape, I’ve accepted that yes, there are days when I wake up and think, is this all there is to life?
But there are also days when I think, life is good.
What causes us to shift from one perspective to another?
What makes us believe that life is passing us by?
I think that at times it might be, for example, discovering that a friend has gotten a promotion at work, or that an acquaintance is going off to explore the pyramids in Egypt.
Other times, we might find ourselves embracing this train of thought when we look in the mirror and see how premature wrinkles and gray hairs have made an appearance, without so much as a word of warning.
And yet other times, we may realize that another month has passed and we don’t have any recollection of where the time went or how we spent it.
In some of these circumstances, we might choose to be happy for the parties involved; we might choose to ignore the signs of aging and accept them as life’s natural course.
But when we don’t, when we’re hell bent on thinking we’re not the ones progressing in our careers, or seeing the tombs of ancient pharaohs, that’s when we might start believing life is passing us by.
But is life really passing us by, or is our attitude prompting us to feel this way?
I believe that while it’s true that life is passing, it’s not passing us by.
Instead, we’re steering its course; we’re playing a lead role in its grand scenario.
Because life is not static.
It doesn’t stand still when things are bad or good.
Life continues to move forward and we continue to evolve, but only if we choose to do so.
If, on the other hand, we elect to stay immobile, stubbornly refusing to take a step, life will not pass us by, but we will remain in the same place, the same spot, until we choose to take a step.
Backwards, sideways, forward, or at an angle, the choice is up to us.
No one can tell us what to do.
It’s our life, after all.
However, if at any time we’re feeling like life is passing us by, this could be life’s way of telling us something is wrong.
Our frustration, angst, and dissatisfaction could very well stem from the fact that we’re not happy; that we don’t feel fulfilled.
Nevertheless, it’s up to us make a change.
And in taking the necessary steps to change our circumstances, we will influence how we see life’s passing.