How important are comments to bloggers?

I think every blogger remembers his or her first.

You know, the first comment made by someone other than a family member, close friend, or spouse.

We remember, because like all of life’s initial experiences, it has a mood altering effect.

That first comment has the power to turn an otherwise quiet and sedate person into a screaming out of control maniac.

And it prompts the usually excitable individuals to go into overdrive; where they feel they’re going to burst from the excitement.

I remember my first blog comment.

His name is Josh and he said two words: “Beautifully delivered.”

Just two words, yet they were enough.

They were enough to make me jump out of my chair and scream, “Somebody out there is reading what I have to say!”

Those two words had enough power to inspire me do my happy dance, to run a victory lap around the living room, and to cheer each letter of my name.

Yes, comments are powerful.

They’re composed of words and there’s no denying how much power words hold.

Sadly, the opposite is also true.

Words also have the power to hurt, to slander, to demean.

I’ve discovered that the majority of writers feel that words can either have an uplifting effect or they can make one stumble.

Fortunately, us writers have thick skin and while mean words can have a negative impact, they don’t hold us down for very long.

Like a phoenix, we rise.

We rise because the need to express ourselves is greater than the feeling of defeat.

We rise because negativity will never triumph over our desire to communicate our thoughts and ideas.

We rise because we understand that not everyone has to agree with what we have to say.

Comments.

I dare say they’re the reason some of us blog.

They encourage us to keep writing.

They’re written applause to what we’ve said.

But most of all, they are inspiring.

Some writers believe they write for themselves; that they have no need for feedback.

And I respect that.

However, I’m not one of those writers.

My readers mean the world to me.

I write for you.

Yes, it’s true I would still write if you weren’t here, but in all honesty, it wouldn’t be as much fun.

If you weren’t here, I would miss your wit.

I would miss the way your words make me giggle and smile.

I would miss your though provoking feedback and suggestions.

I would miss discovering how you feel about a particular subject.

Nevertheless, I don’t agree that a writer’s as good as his or her audience.

I don’t believe this is true.

There are many fantastic writers/bloggers who do not receive a lot of comments on their posts.

This makes me wonder what causes some bloggers to have so many comments and others so few.

Does popularity have anything to do with it?

Is it because some writers are more charismatic than others?

Is it because some bloggers network more?

I wrote this post to get answers to these questions.

But I also wrote it to create awareness regarding the importance of feedback.

Dear readers, I know I speak for many when I say, while we love that you drop by and read our blogs, we love it so much more when you take the time to comment.

We want to know what you think.
We want you to be a part of the discussion.
We want to engage you in dialogue.

For all of you who take the time to leave comments on my blog, thank you!

I am very, very grateful.

What prompts you to leave a comment on someone’s blog?

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144 thoughts on “How important are comments to bloggers?

  1. I comment when there’s a question I’m interested in answering or when I feel like I have something to contribute to the conversation. But… only when it actually feels like a conversation, when I feel like my input is encouraged and I have (or have the possibility of) a connection to the writer or other readers. I’ve commented on some blogs where it seems that my thoughts just echoed in an empty space. No one heard me or cared what I have to say. The blogs I go back to are the ones where I feel like I’m welcome to share.

    1. Shary, thank you for the feedback! Your comments are always valued on my blog! I love that you always give your sincere input and that even Lola makes an appearance from time to time! I know exactly what you mean about commenting and feeling like no one is there. I’ve experienced that in the past, and like you, have opted not to return. I want to know that whatever I said, meant something to the writer, or at the very least, that he or she read what I had to say. Thanks for weighing in, lady! :)

  2. You are right, Bella. Comments mean a lot to most bloggers. It lets us know that the people reading are responding to what we are saying. I have learned that a lack of comments don’t always mean there is something wrong with what we’ve said. There are just some topics that drive more conversation.

    I always see lots of comments here – I tend to think that has a lot to do with how you engage the people “around” you. You make your blog a conversation with your readers – which is a great thing.

    1. Amber, thank you for your kind words. I wholeheartedly agree with you–less comments don’t necessarily mean less response. Most definitely, some topics engage readers more. I love conversing with my readers. I’ll confess that this is one of my major outlets, not only for creativity, but also for expression. If it weren’t for the many conversations I have with fellow bloggers and readers, I’m afraid I would drive the Son and the Significant Other mad! hee hee! I’m always delighted when you leave a comment and even when you don’t, your presence is felt, friend. :)

  3. My art blog with Blogger some years ago saw very few, if any comments. Often, I felt like I was entertaining myself and then it felt kinda useless to keep putting in the effort. I wasn’t writing at the time and said when I started again, I’d use WordPress, so here I am and I like it a lot better. But I also have to say that when I blogged initially, I did it to say that I knew what it was about.

    Comments are important, I think. But I also have to say that I’ve had comments I’d rather not have anymore. It’s not typical for me to delete comments but I did recently. I just don’t like this blogger with all the negative energy. It’s so unnecessary and takes the fun away. I started blogging as a writer to relieve the stresses I was dealing with. Anyway, most comments are very welcomed and I enjoy the feedback. I’m no longer yelling down an empty well as I was with my first blog.

    1. Totsy, there’s always a ying to the yang, isn’t there? I’m sorry for your negative commenter. And you know where I stand on toxic folk, out with them! I’m grateful that I’ve never experienced negative or hurtful commenters but if I did, I would deal with them the same way I deal with negative things in my life. Everybody’s entitled to their opinion but that doesn’t mean I’m going to roll out the red carpet if you decide to insult me in my home. That said, I’m glad you are no longer “yelling down and empty well.” Your art is fantastic and well deserves the fan base that you have! :)

  4. Thank you Bella for writing this post and raising this question. I was discussing this same subject with my friend over the week end. I was angry towards myself for “enjoying” having comments. I hated to see my ‘ego’ appreciating it, and on another hand, i was expressing my sadness for not getting comments from friends and bloggers I appreciate very much, and would love to have them share their thoughts with me.
    I think what makes a Blogger popular is of course his writing, and variety in subject, but it is mainly his visits to other bloggers. After all, people who read blogs are usually bloggers themselves. It’s like everything else in life, like friendship. You visit me, and I will visit back. The more people you visit, the more you will have visiting you.
    Since I don’t consider myself a writer, and until now, I don’t have the intention of being one, I don’t really care in getting many comments or a lot of visits, BUT what I care about a lot is that the people I love and appreciate whether they are friends or other bloggers come and read my posts.
    I can’t have friends in real life, I am not allowed to, but I need to have friends, to share my life with them, my thoughts and worries as well as my happiness.
    The reason why I appreciate your comments, its because it is a sign that the friendship I offer, is returned.
    Thank yo very much Bella <3

    1. Nikky, when I first heard you had started your blog, I thought, finally, this wonderful human being who takes the time to read, leave comment, and tweet posts has her own platform where she too can receive feedback. I’m so glad that this medium offers you the possibility to connect with other people and make friends. I don’t think you should feel guilty about having a lot of comments. I don’t find it narcissistic to enjoy having others comment on what we write. And I disagree about your not being a writer. To me, anyone who uses the written word to express himself or herself is a writer in progress. I thank you for your feedback regarding what makes bloggers popular. I’ll admit that there are times I’ve come to think blogging is a full-time job and the more comments you receive, the more time it takes to reply and repay the visit. But it’s such a wonderful experience that even if we go to sleep in the wee hours of the morning, we do it. I’m currently desperately trying to play catch up because the Son is STILL sharing the laptop with me. I can’t wait for the semester to end! hee hee! Thank you for your insight and adding to the mix, lady! :)

    2. Thank You very much Bella!
      I would love to have your answer on your question:What prompts you to leave a comment on someone’s blog?

    3. Nikky, most definitely it has to do with how the blogger engages his or her audience. Also, if the subject resonated with me, if I liked the writing style, or if I was moved by what the blogger wrote about. I also like to visit blogs of subjects I’m clueless about, like fashion. I visit various fashion blogs because I pick up tips on how to dress! hee hee! I also like cooking blogs and those that post do it yourself projects. I will leave a comment if the craft or make up tip was great and if it helped me, for example. I also like to leave comments on those blogs that I see don’t have a lot of traffic. I think it’s a good way to encourage the blogger and motivate him or her to keep posting. :)

    4. WOW!! Big variety, I don’t think I am subscribed to any fashion Blog!!
      To be honest, I just asked the question because, being an anxious person by nature, i have asked myself about the reasons why you skipped few posts, not that I expect everyone to read everything, not at all, just wondering!! Much Love :)

    5. Nikky, my apologies if I’ve skipped a couple of your posts. The Son has started studying for finals and unfortunately, we’re still sharing the laptop. I try to play catch up on the weekends and late at night. Sometimes my favorite bloggers will get ahead of me and post. Hence, when I click on their blogs, I comment on the most recent and work my way down. Please bear with me just a wee bit longer. Much love to you too! :)

    6. It wasn’t a blame Bella!!! I totally understand!! I started reading Blogs less than 6 months ago, and i am following around 160 Blogs, some of them post twice a day :(
      I read everything, but I wish I have time to comment on everything. truth is I’m in a big trouble :( I am far behind with my work, and only sleep 3 hours out of 24!

  5. Hi Bella, thanks for the great post. I definitely remember the first comment from someone I didn’t know — it was exhilarating and so motivating! I was so honored when you left comments on my blog! Even though I have taken a little blogging break, it is still thinking about those blog “conversations” that motivates me to keep thinking of blog ideas. I agree with Shary above that I like to comment when I feel I really have something to say, not just to leave an obligatory sentence or two. Often times I will read a post and really enjoy it, but if I feel like the subject matter or question posed is something I just can’t relate to or to which I can contribute anything insightful, I don’t want to just take up space!

    1. Caryn, I believe you have successfully distinguished what makes for an insightful comment versus one that’s done mearly to “return the favor.” I admit that I don’t always read the comments on other blogs. However, there are times that I do and realize that most of these say, “Good post!” or “Great!” While these are still complimentary to the writer, they don’t really offer great insight and you can’t but wish they’d left something a little “meatier.” I look at comments as a way for the blogger and other readers to interact with each other. I love when my readers, just like you did with Shary’s comment, read other comments and allude to them. This to me, is a sign that we have more than just a board featuring disconnected thoughts, but instead, a forum where we learn from each other, share views, and agree or disagree with one another. And that’s just beautiful! I’ve been stalking your blog but know you haven’t posted in a bit. No worries though cause I know that when you write again, your readers will jump right into the conversation as usual! :)

  6. dear Bella, I like to comment when I feel I’ve something to contribute, but sometimes I would like to just write: ‘nice to read you’. And sometimes I’ve no time to write anything, and I feel I’m missing something important because commenting is how I take part in this blogosphere thing!
    besos & ‘nice to read you’

    1. Mrs. Allnut, a “nice to read you” from you, dear lady, means the world to me! I love that you take the time to read my posts! And I love that you always tell me that I make you laugh! There’s no better compliment to a wannabee humorous writer than to hear a reader say that she has been effective in making her readers chuckle. So thank you for that! And because I now know how you feel, a smiley face will suffice to let me know you were here. Because that’s all that really matters! Besos y “nice to have you here”! :)

  7. Bella, you are one of my favorite commenters! You always say the most beautiful things in response to my blog! You have tons of comments because your blog is so good and you reciprocate. I comment on every blog I read, to appreciate the writer. I do enjoy my comments, too. My blog has been very slow and sometimes I wonder why, but I know it is because I don’t put enough time into planning. It is a choice I make since I am doing so many things, so for now i must accept it! Thank you dear girl. Beautifully delivered, as usual!

    1. Jodi, your comment has me glowing, lady! Thank you! I’m honored that you like my comments. I really strive to make my comments as personal as possible and to let the writer/blogger know how his or her words have touched me. I know you’re a strong commenter. I see your name everywhere! And trust me, I think I speak for us all when I say we are so very grateful for your visits. You are very wise in having identified what makes for slower traffic since this is something that you can choose to address. Your blog posts always leave me inspired…and hopeful. :)

  8. I try to comment when i feel moved. Sometimes I may want to comment but I don’t for fear that it may seem like i’m commenting just to comment or for ulterior motives. I always want it to be genuine. I love this post because i can relate. I find myself Nuerotically checking for comments when i do a post as a sort of confirmation and i’ve realized this time around not to do that. I have to remind myself I’m doing it for my own growth and just enjoy posting. One other reason I may not comment especially on yours is others have said it wittier, tough competition with your readers ; ) My little guy is pushing me out of the way saying my turn mommy-His comment he likes the blue dots!

    1. Una, as usual, your words make me smile–big! You’re right–this is a tough crowd! They’re witty, smart, and sharp as tacks! But guess what? So are you, dear lady! So are you! Kudos to you for posting to your blog for your personal growth and enjoyment! We should not feel pressure to post for any other reason that! Tell your little guy I’m delighted he likes the blue dots! I like them too! And I like that you provided such wonderful feedback! :)

  9. Two words for this post- “Beautifully delivered”. :)
    I am not sure, now if those two words have enough power in them, just like they had when for the first time they appeared on your comment box, to inspire you do your happy dance, to run a victory lap around the living room, and to cheer each letter of your name.
    You speak for all of us through this post. I will completely agree with you that, words have lots of power in them to inspire a person and they also have the power to work in the opposite way. To me personally, nothing feels better than someone commenting on my post, appreciating my thoughts, and ready to listen more. It’s a process from giving birth to a thought to replying someone’s comment on the same which gives us a reason to write, write & write more.
    Thanks for sharing this wonderful thought.

    1. Arindam, guess what? Your “beautifully delivered” comment had me doing the happy dance, lap around the living room, and cheering my name! Not only is it a beautifully written comment, but you also represent a minority group on this blog–men! ha! I love it when males are courageous enough to walk into a strong female circle like the one we have here and let their presence known! I love it! I’m also delighted you were able to connect with this blog post. I agree with you–comments allow us to know that readers are receptive to what we have to say and they inspire us to write more. Keep writing, friend, and readers will make their way to you! :)

  10. Ciao Bella, I have to say that until I started my own blog, I never left comments anywhere!! I think you have to be a blogger to “get” the importance of feedback. I find that many readers will write to me directly, but are too shy to put a comment out there for all to read. For me, that’s absolutely OK. xxxxxx

    1. Jann, thank you for adding that to the mix. Indeed, many readers find it easier to connect with the blogger through direct email. I have had many readers write and share their thoughts and it’s just wonderful! To me, as long as there is communication, that’s all that matters. You always bring pizzazz to my blog with your wit and joie de vivre! Hugs!

  11. This is such a thoughtful, true post, Bella.

    I don’t comment every time I read a blog post – even those written by the bloggers on my Beloved Blogs page, like you.

    When I comment, it’s because what has been written stirs my mind, my heart, or both. You happen to do that a lot. :-) xoxo

    1. Ellen, you make my heart smile at the thought that my words stir your mind and heart! What a beautiful thing to say! You are special, lady, and when you leave comments, I just smile! Thank you! xoxo :)

  12. Beautifully said, Bella! Comments let us offer encouragement. Or praise. They give us a chance to point out something the writer/blogger might not have considered. To link to more information elsewhere, or perhaps another blogger. That said, I’ve found lots of people who lurk but don’t comment. Maybe they believe they don’t have anything important to say. Maybe they just don’t have time. But I know I tend to quit reading blogs where the writer won’t take time to respond to comments, or doesn’t seem to encourage comments, or just becomes tiresome. Horrible, I know. But time is precious for all of us, and whoever doesn’t “play nice” doesn’t get invited back, haha! You, my friend, aren’t like that — at all. You’re warm, and welcoming, and you always have something interesting to contribute. I’m thrilled I found you and Miss Roxy!!

    1. Debbie, and Roxy and I are so happy that you found us! I love how you have eloquently enhanced my post! Well done, sister! I don’t think it’s horrible to kick someone out of the sandbox if they’re not playing nice. Like everything in life, there have to be certain rules of engagement and as a returning comments should be seen, at the very least, as a “professional courtesy.” Sadly, not everyone abides by the rules and some even have a sense of entitlement where they don’t feel obliged to put into effect the rule of reciprocity. Well, I’m with you–if I feel that the blogger can’t be bothered to engage with his or her readers, I will not return. To me, blogging is about a give a take; an exchange with people that have the same interests or share a passion for writing and communicating. If that is absent, then methinks the blogger would be best served exploring other venues. I am so very grateful for your kind words. I think we’re very alike you and I. I like that you’re direct and don’t mince words. It speaks of someone who’s real and not fake; spontaneous and forthcoming. In other words, you’re a rare gem, Ms. Debbie! :)

    2. Your comments make me blush, my friend! I’m thrilled the “real Debbie” shines through, and I’m honored to think I might be even a wee bit like Bella!

    3. Debbie, you’re a hoot! If only you lived in Europe, we could grab a coffee, or wine, or both and chat the night away! And Roxy would love for your Sheltie to join us! :)

  13. It was such a loooooong time before I got a comment from someone. Looking back on it, I wonder how I stood it!! Well, I do know why…when I first started blogging, it was for myself. It was a way to have fun writing and I really didn’t care if anyone read my posts or not. In the year I’ve been blogging ‘ve learned that writing is only half of the enjoyment. The other half is the people you connect with. My experience is like Debbie’s. I have many people who read my blog faithfully but never leave a comment. I wish they would!

    1. Isn’t it funny how some of us start writing for fun but then discover there’s more to the writing process than that? I love how this medium allows us to cultivate online friendships. Even more, I dare say I’ve made better connections online than I have in person in the last year! Perhaps you could write a blog post telling your readers how much you’d love to receive their feedback and comments. I find most people respond well when you write things in black and white terms. :)

  14. I think you’ve nailed it, Bella. The prompt for me to comment on one’s blog is an innate connection with the reader. Your posts always connect with me, and for your avid followers I am sure. THANK YOU for your super sweet words today on Twitter and at my blog..it means a lot to me. The little piggie came to me this morning. I thought of my dear sweet mom..how she is the year of the pig and loves piggies, and lemon pies. So, she made the illo happen. There’s a lotta love in that piece..I am so so very glad it connected with you. : ) And, goodness, I will be back for more of your fantastic posts..speaking for myself, I like to be asked and to think..and you do all of that..without any judgements upon any of us. Love your first post’s comment. It says it perfectly in what you do, everytime you post. : )

    1. Shirley, your words lift me to the sky and beyond! Thank you, thank you! I’m so delighted that you like the posts and that you feel this way! I’m still thinking of that little piggy of yours! How beautiful that there’s so much sentiment behind it! You’ve managed to personalize him in such a way, readers can’t but love him! :) I am forever grateful that you make a stop and leave your thoughtful comments. They always make my day and inspire me to write, write, write! As long as I have readers like you and the rest of this wonderful bunch, I will forever be penning my thoughts! :)

  15. I lo000000ve Bella! <3

    ~~~`Okay, now I remember my very first comment by a hot blogger person named Amy Fagan about 4 years ago when I was writing on Skirt….. I was like, WOW! And I fell in love with her immediantely cuz she liked me and took the time to comment.

    We are still friends and she has been there for me during these very dark days. She is a FABULOUS writer & person…

    Anyhow, there is this other blogger chick named BELLA who leaves the most exquiste, beautiful, encouraging, inspiring comments, as well.

    Everytime I see her name, my heart does flips…becauseI know I will be reading a prayer that fills me up inside.<3 I love you, Bella.

    1. Kim, I’ve told you this many times but it merits repeating: You are beautiful and I consider myself so lucky to call you a friend! Thank you for your sweet words. They do this woman a world of good! Amy Fagan was able to spot your potential; smart cookie that lady! Your blog not only serves to create awareness to such an important topic as domestic abuse, you also give your readers a potpourri of all that is you. And I love you for it! Your spontaneous and “real” voice serves to prompt the rest of us to follow your lead! Love you, lady! :)

  16. Bella, this entry makes me want to say a number of things at once. First, thanks for writing this. I’ve been blogging for about three months and the memory of “is anyone going to notice this (my blog)” is still fresh. I still think this, although I’ve now got a few good fellow bloggers I’ve connected with. The second thing I want to say is that you are one of those few. I thank you profusely for that and I’m sure your other readers do as well. Your comments are not rote or formulaic, but thoughtful and tailored to each reader’s comment. This is what, in my opinion, comments should be.

    Third, writing can be a lonely business. It is certainly a solitary business. It requires you to go into your head and not be afraid of your own thoughts and brave enough to put them out there for the world to see. So, to spend anxious hours composing a post – particularly when you are new and haven’t developed a tough skin – and then to finally put it out there, only to get no comments, it sort of hurts. Not to mention possibly making you – or me, at any rate – feel a bit foolish. If it happens frequently enough, it can cause you to quit blogging altogether. I went through that for a bit. But I’m stubborn and still here 8).

    Fourth, thanks for writing a post about a subject I’ve been thinking about. I am still new enough to the blogging sphere that I still get that flutter of “do I have any comments” when I bring up my blog. Yes, comments matter, to most bloggers, I think. Most bloggers need input; few can continue to write in a void.

    Thanks again, sister!

    1. Eloise, sister, your words move me. They truly do. I so wish we were having this conversation in person, over a cup of coffee! We would talk until the cows came home and dissect the writing process, the ins and outs of blogging, and how writing can indeed be a solitary venture. I think you’ve found your blogging voice and are successfully connecting with your readers. Your replies are always well thought out and detailed and I think people really appreciate that you take the time to do this. I also want you to know that I agree–it is disheartening to spend a lot of time on a post only to realize it’s not being loved the way you love it. We really have to explore the best way to provide our writing with exposure. In the meantime, it seems like you’re doing all the right things and readers are already aware of your wonderful writing style. In the meantime, keep writing, lady! You do it well! :)

  17. Good idea for a post. Comments. I agree. They have great value, something all bloggers appreciate. The feedback of our readers. I spend a good portion of everynight reading dozens of blogs and I comment on 95%. I find the posts interesting, varied, dealing with all kinds of subjects, as well as witty, spirtual, empowering, and colorful. I always enjoy reading your posts, Bella, as I can always relate to what you’re saying. Plus, I love your photos. And, of course, Roxy’s such a cutie. Seeing her brings a smile to my face each time.

    1. Monica, and I love it when you drop by! Your comments make me smile and there’s always so much logic behind everything you say! You know I’m a big fan of your blog. I still chuckle when I think of “El Fugitivo”! hee hee! I think we have to find a way to extend the day longer than 24 hours. We have so much to say and so little time, sister! Roxy takes a bow at your lovely words and sends hugs and kisses to you and Sir Henry. And I’m tickled pink you like my photos! Thanks for chiming in, lady! :)

  18. Bella, you are spot on with this. Comments make my day. They can send me right back to the keyboard to write another post. Negative comments can make me stumble, but only until I right myself again and get back on course.

    A few nights ago I had the chance to see The Bloggess as she was in LA for her book tour. Someone asked her how she handled negative comments. She laughed and said she usually didn’t give them much thought…but then she gave two examples of what she might do. If someone is really nasty she responds by saying “Mom, is that you?” Or if the person keeps trying to comment she may edit their comment to say something like “I adore you…every word you say.” In which the offender may write another comment trying to tell everyone that she changed his negative comment. That is when she changes his followup to say, “I mean it…adore isn’t even strong enough. (or something like that.) Bottom line, the person finally gets tired of having their comments changed and takes his sucky self to another blog to raise havoc. I thought that was pretty clever.

    Thank the Lord, I’ve never had a really negative comment, but I’ll be prepared when I do. Great post, Bella!!!!!

    1. Annie, I love it when you come around! The Bloggess had doled out some wonderful savvy advice! I’ve taken note and feel that I am now better equipped to deal with a poison pill should it ever come my way! Thank you for sharing, Annie! I’m glad we’re now two prepared women! There’s no stopping us now! Bring it! hee hee! :)

  19. We love our readers as much as our kibble. However, we do wonder how some bloggers who have been blogging only a couple of months like us have triple the comments. Maybe the know more canines and humans? We’ll just keep doing our thing.

    Bella and DiDi

    1. Bella and Didi, it makes you wonder, right? Perhaps those furry friends know more canines and humans like you say. Nevertheless, both of you ladies are adorable and I’m sure that it won’t be long before you start getting just as many comments. In the meantime, doing your own thing sounds like a wonderful plan! Go ladies! :)

  20. Oh Bella, such a good post. I admit I have become more of a reader and less of a commenter in the past couple months. Thank you for reminding me about the power of a sincere response. Receiving comments still makes my day, for sure. :)

    1. Heidi!!!! I have missed you, girl! I’m smiling from ear to ear after witnessing your comment in my comment box! I know you’re always pressed for time so I’ll take what you’ve got when you’ve got it! No worries, lady. I have to stop by your blog and catch up! I know I’ve been missing a few of your shots! I’ll drop by this afternoon! :)

  21. Well, I am pretty new in the blogging arena and I wasn’t really sure what to expect when I started. I had read that it takes a looooong time to establish yourself, so I wasn’t too shocked that I didn’t have a lot of comments in the beginning. While I write on niche topic, I love to read all different kinds of blogs. It took a little while before I found welcoming, warm blogs such as yours and then even a bit longer to have the courage to comment, but over time, I have found some wonderful places to visit and many wonderful visitors to me as well.

    Just like Shary & Caryn, I only comment when I feel like I have something valuable to contribute, but that doesn’t mean I am not reading and enjoying lots of wonderful posts by many great people. Sometimes when I feel like anything I say will be a reiteration of something someone else said, but the topic is really stimulating, I send out a tweet, so that others may join in that may have not known about the post.

    I don’t think it is bad to enjoy the feeling and affirmation of comments. Sometimes someone will reference one of my posts in a tweet or some other platform, but they haven’t left a comment. I often think “Wow, they actually read it” and it makes me happy.

    I think we all love the connections we make through blogging and comments are one of the reminders we are making real connections. Ultimately, I would keep blogging if I didn’t receive comments since part of the reason I do it is because I am a more reserved person, yet I feel like I have a lot to share and I needed a place to get it out into the universe :) Over time, I think people naturally find like-minded individuals.

    Bella, you were one of the first people who was super-warm and interacted with me on Twitter and that was a wonderful thing. That gesture that you made encouraged me charge on. Your blog is a wonderful, engaging place to visit and I love your insightful posts like this one.

    1. Lisa, you almost made me cry with your sweet words! You see, charming people deserve to have hundreds of comments. I am delighted that you stop by and read my posts. I love how you mention that you would still blog even if you didn’t get comments. This reaffirms the fact that many of us blog because we derive pleasure of sharing what we have to say, with or without an audience. I think if someone tweets a post and doesn’t leave a comment, that’s just as nice. I also like that WordPress users can click the “like” button. I find this especially useful for photograph blogs. I can’t tell you how happy it makes me that you are sharing in the conversation with us, lady. I love having you around! :)

  22. Yes, comments are great. My first comment from someone unknown to me (aside from spam bots) was invigorating. I was so excited and flummoxed, that I deleted her comment, when I meant to reply! Then I found the email version of her comment, posted using my account with an apology and the accompanying explanation: “ImAdork!”

    Great Post Belle! :-)

    1. Mike, excitement makes us do silly things, right? I had to chuckle at the fact you deleted your first comment! Oh my goodness! I can only imagine your reaction! hee hee! I’m delighted you liked the post! :)

  23. Hi, Bella! ~

    Yes. I remember my first comment — WoW!!

    What I’ve learned about blogging is that it’s a CONVERSATION. Meaning that the comment isn’t just feedback on the blog, it’s an art-form which is alive and growing as more people become involved. I am a photographer, a writer, a storyteller, a jewelry-maker, but my favorite art-form is CONVERSATION.

    I notice bloggers who have commented here that they don’t get many comments and I have personal experience which tells me it’s because they are not authentic and their readers realize that. It’s a turn-off. Not the case with YOU!

    Thank you for all that you are!

    1. Linda, thank you so much! Your words make me want to twirl! I think you make an important point–authenticity is one of the things most readers look for. Personally, I love bloggers who I call “hard-core.” You know the kind–their writing leaves you feeling invigorated, it resonates with you, it’s full of reality. Now that’s what I call good writing! Heidi, who commented earlier, is one of those bloggers. She’s a mom who writes about what being a REAL mom is all about. Fortunately for us, there are many bloggers who write from the heart and when we pay their blog a visit, we feel like we’re actually there with them, drinking coffee, and sharing secrets. I also think interaction is important. I don’t want to visit a blog where the person “talks down” to her or his readers. Or someone who only blogs about the good things that are going on in the “happy and ecstatic” lives they lead. From time to time, give me spilled guts, tears, sadness, madness; let me feel that you are real. Wouldn’t you agree? Thank you for your lovely comment, lady. You’ve made my day! :)

    2. Bella — I don’t know how to reply to your reply, so it looks like I’m replying to myself — haha!

      Yes! I do agree (with your reply to my original comment!)

      I’m on my way to check out Heidi’s blog based on your personal recommendation ;-)

      thanks!

    3. Linda, isn’t this reply feature silly? But no worries, I see everything here! hee hee! I know you’ll love Heidi’s blog. She’s a fantastic human being and something tells me you’ll enjoy her photos very much! :)

  24. I leave a comment when I have something to say, or, sometimes, just to let the fellow blogger that I dropped by and read their words.

    Comments are nice. Like letting you know you’re not talking to yourself. :) Bad comments can hurt, true, but in its own way, no comments at all can hurt too, or at least make you wonder if you’re, well, just talking to yourself, or are acting like one of those street preachers. :)

    1. Ivana, you always make me laugh! “…make you wonder if you’re, well, just talking to yourself, or are acting like one of those street preachers.” Brilliant! You make a wonderful point! No comments can lead you to wonder if there’s anyone out there, right? I agree. A little recognition affirms that someone out there is listening! :)

  25. I leave a comment because I am moved, stirred, nay, changed in some way, by what the person has written. I want to add my Amen to what they have poured their soul into to encourage them and find myself also. Readers comments encourage me a great deal and I have even written some down on my ‘encouragement board’ to read when the going gets tough.

    1. Elizabeth, what a wonderful idea! I love that you write some of your comments. Just the other day I thought, what would happen if something went wrong with WordPress and blogs were lost? I dare say I would weep at the loss of the comments on my blog. Some of them, like you mention, serve to encourage us when the going gets rough. I think I’ll steal that idea from you and start an encouragement notebook! Thank you! :)

  26. We probably all read and write so many words in cybersoace nowadays. I comment when something pulls me up to think on what has been written. This obviously did.

    1. I am delighted that this post managed to make you think! Thank you for making my day with your comment! This goes to prove the importance of comments to a writer’s “feel good” quotient! :)

  27. Oh Bella, you are such a creative writer and so clever at engaging your audience! I recently returned from the Erma Bombeck Writer’s Conference and there was much discussion about the necessity to ‘engage your readers’. Commenting on blogs is all part of that… a natural way to maintain a conversation even if it’s online. In many cases, the readership depends on this conversation. In your case, it’s why you write. I think that is beautiful!

    1. Astra, comments like yours are why I write. Thank you for your ever kind words, lady! How wonderful that you were able to attend the Erma Bombeck conference! I love her! Such an icon, that woman! I think that keeping the conversation alive with your readers is so important. We have such good times on this here blog! We’ve been through so much together–all the way from ill-fitting underpants to sharing our love for coffee! I can’t imagine life without our wonderful online chats! :)

  28. Bella, first let me thank you for writing! I always love reading what you have to say :).

    For me, the decision to leave a comment has to do with a strange conglomeration of circumstances that I don’t entirely understand. Often I’ll read a post and think “I am so glad that I read this,” but I don’t actually feel compelled to say that. That’s when I click the “like” button.

    1. Rachel, I love it when you click the “like” button! Thank you so much for reading my blog! I love that you drop by, enlighten us with your thoughts, and are always so complimentary. I was mentioning in an earlier comment that sometimes bloggers don’t have a lot of time and this is when it’s perfectly acceptable to click the “like” button. I just wish the Blogger platform also had that option! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us, pretty lady! :)

  29. Your posts always get me thinking . . .
    You are so right. Comments keep me motivated. It is so inspiring to think that someone out there read something I wrote. Thought enough of it to actually put fingers to keys. I remember my first comment. I couldn’t believe it. Someone actually liked something I wrote enough to respond???! It was the best of days. And now, with every comment, it’s still the best of days. And I comment when I enjoy a blog. To show the writer that I enjoy it. And to keep her writing . . .
    :)

    1. Diane, I love that you keep me writing! Your stories keep me reading! I’ve always said you’re one of the best story tellers I know! I agree with you–commenting does show our appreciation and lets the writer know that we’re interested in what he or she has to say. I love that you still get excited at seeing new comments. I’m grateful that you visit my blog and share your thoughts and opinions. Thank you! :)

  30. Hello out there in Bella World. First-timer here; perfect post to move me out of my “just wanna vege out and read” mood. :)
    I’ve only recently come across your blog and am already addicted, and even shared your “stop the insanity” post on my Facebook page. That particular subject has been at the forefront of my mind for several months now as it becomes more and more acceptable to become a hater. Am I a hater if I say I hate haters? Lol A hater is another name for a bully in my opinion.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts in a blog. I am looking forward to getting to know you and the ones in your world, because it’s seems it’s a warm, wonderful, encouraging, strong, confident fun place to hang out at!

    1. Jenny, hello and welcome! I love first time readers! Thank you for sharing my post on Facebook! That was sweet and I’m grateful! You can tell by my use of exclamation points just how much I appreciate it! hee hee! We’re happy that you’ve decided to join us cause we always have a lot fun here! :)

  31. I comment if I have something to say. Before I started blogging, I was a voracious blog reader. But I never commented. I think it’s because I never thought I brought anything special to the table. But blogging is kinda like a conversation, I think. We put ourselves out into the world through our blogs, and our audience watches, reads, listens. My comments aren’t always nice. Sometimes, I disagree, but I disagree with tact. I just imagine myself having a conversation with that blogger :)

    1. Laura, I think you’re a very tactful and classy commenter. I love it that you don’t always agree. The world would be very bland if all of us agreed. Like you mention, having a different opinion serves to stimulate good conversation and it allows the personalities of those involved to shine through. In other words, it makes us human. I hope that you will never change. I love you just the way you are! :)

  32. Hi Bella, I am coming here after a long time. Yes what you say is so true. I love when people respond to my poems. Blogging for me is a place where I express my thoughts and I am not one of those for whom comments and feedback don’t matter. Every time someone comments I get a thrill. I learnt that the more you go and read other people’s post and leave genuine comments, they are sure to come back to read yours. It is to a large extent a give and take situation but even there you will find there are some bloggers whose posts you love so much that you want to keep going back and reading some more. and yes I make it a point to reply to every comment. I have subscribed to you via email so that I can keep getting updates from you. I love your style of writing. It is so free and uninhibited.

    http://rimlybezbaruah.blogspot.in/2012/04/dusk.html

    1. Rimly, I love you! I just read your comment to the Significant Other and said, Rimly thinks my writing style is free and uninhibited and he said, “Tell Rimly that your personality is free and uninhibited as well. That’s why the neighbors dislike us so much!” bwhahaha! Thank you, Rimly! I was so happy to see your comment. I’ve missed you, friend. I think your wonderful poetry deserves to receive comments from your readers. After all, it’s good to know people appreciate what you write, wouldn’t you agree? :)

    2. Awww Bella! So what if the neighbors dislike you, you have more friends who care for you. Looking forward to seeing more of your posts, Bella.

    3. Rimly, you make my heart smile, sister! Thank you so much for your encouragement and support! I am so grateful and pleased you feel this way. :)

  33. Someday, I hope to have as many comments on my posts as you have on yours.

    Having said that, I am always grateful for each and every comment I get. And it’s true…you always remember your first comment. And I must say that you have been one of those few people who has been regularly commenting on my weird/wacky/sentimental/random posts. So thank you for that.

    I believe bloggers should always reply to comments, however unnecessary they find it. I find it hard to keep my interest up in a blog where the writer only writes the post and then never replies back to comments. However, bloggers who take time out to read and reply to comments show that they are actually grateful that you were here and you read what they had to say. It’s all about giving each person a level of…respect, maybe? I mean, if I comment on something I loved reading and I write with a lot of enthusiasm and good wishes, and the writer never replies, I feel so stupid. Like, why did I even bother?

    1. Sanchari, you’re so right–replying to comments is a way for the blogger to show her or his readers appreciation and respect. I couldn’t agree more. I think your blog is on its way to receiving recognition and as such, your number of comments will increase as people catch on to your fun writing style. I, for one, will continue to drop by and leave my comments because I admire your honesty and spunk! :)

  34. I love to leave comments when a particular post or photo makes me feel in someway. Maybe it makes me laugh, or makes me think something about myself…or makes me want to try something new. I don’t leave ENOUGH comments, I know…but I realize the importance of them because I know how I LOVE getting them myself.

    1. Lady, you speak but the truth! I think what should most inspire us to leave a comment is what you said, we love getting them too. When we think of that, it motivates us to leave words that act as proof we were there. I so like the reasons that motivate you to leave a comment! :)

  35. “Great post” Bella! HA HA! No, really. I don’t comment on a lot of posts. Your blog is one I probably comment most on. You engage your readers very well. Many times for me it is a matter of time. I always seem to have a lot to get done in a day and at times have to make the choice between writing on my own website, facebook, etc. or reading and commenting on others. I tend to comment most on posts that I can relate to or that make me feel something, whether it be happy, funny, sad, and sometimes even mad. I try to avoid commenting if I am afraid of being too disagree-able or hurting someone’s feelings. I also love to receive comments on my posts. My website is geared to women, and many times to women over 50, so this may limit followers, but I loved your description of the joy felt when a comment is received. It definitely makes you want to write more. In some very small way I relate it to how an actor or singer must feel when they received applause! Wonder what a blogger’s version of a standing ovation would be? Whatever it is, I would probably be impossible to live with if and when that might happen!
    Talk to you later,
    Nina – http://over50andhappy.com

    1. Nina, as always your eloquent response serves to expand on the conversation! Thank you for that! I love visiting your blog. It matters not to me that I’m not yet fifty. I assume I’ll soon be there and when I do, I want to be prepared! Hence, I see my visits to your place as training for the actual thing! hee hee! Seriously though, I love your take on the variety of subjects you discuss. Your last post on creativity and passion was phenomenal! :)

    2. Nina, I love your attitude! I pray I’m just as sassy as you are in a couple of years time! And for the record, 50 never looked as good as it looks on you! Hugs! :)

  36. This is the proverbial ‘falling tree in the forest’ situation. If no one comments, did anyone read it? And yes, I remember my first comment. I didn’t know what I was doing. Started a blog to hold myself accountable to writing. And ‘wham’ – a comment came through. It was from a guy in France who critiqued my blog appearance – very nicely – and left a few suggestions such as adding an easy to follow button and links. It was soooo helpful and I added all of his suggestions.

    1. Renee, a man in France was your first comment? Now who could forget a Frenchman as one’s first? hee hee! I think you’re a wonderful and loyal commenter. I for one always appreciate your adding to the conversation. Please continue to do so! :)

  37. Dear Bella, I completely agree! Comments mean the world to me. I try to share that with other bloggers by commenting on their blogs too. Since I started blogging in January, I have discovered that the blogging community is incredibly sharing and supportive. I have entered such a great world!
    Take care and keep up the great writing!
    Lisa Weinstein
    http://www.lisagradessweinstein.blogspot.com

    1. Lisa, I’m so happy to see you drop by! I agree–the blogging community is extremely nurturing and supportive. I’m made friends here that I’ve never had in all my life! I’m grateful for the opportunity to exchange thoughts and ideas with like-minded people and I see you feel the same. Thank you for your sweet words, lady! :)

    1. Nikky, aw, thank you! I’m delighted that you’ve included me in your list of nominated blogs! I’m in good company! :)

  38. I read a lot of blogs, comment on only a few. I only comment when something inspires me, makes me laugh, moves me..
    When someone comments on my page, as a courtesy I go and read their page… every now and then I am lucky enough to meet someone special, someone beautiful inside.. and this adds beauty to my life..
    You (& Roxy) have done that
    xx

    1. Lady, this is the kind of comment that makes a blogger weepy! Thank you for your sweet words! Roxy and I consider ourselves lucky that you visit our blog and grace us with your kind words. I’m so touched! I have to add that we also benefit from visiting you blog and reading your wonderful poetry! :)

  39. I comment when moved by the post, the person, the topic, or my funny morning mood–and only if I have something uplifting to say, or can add a shifted perspective in a non-slamming way–as an addition to the conversation. Comments on my own blog-which has only been re-born recently-mean the world to me; that someone equally busy took the time to read, be inspired by, and comment on something I’ve written from my heart. If what I write makes a difference to someone, then I am smiling broadly.

    1. Briton, and it’s such a great feeling to know that someone has been inspired by what you’ve written, isn’t it? I love that you add comments in order to add to the conversation. Most definitely, this is how we keep the conversation alive and I feel this is especially vital when we’re discussing subjects like the recent one on stopping the insanity of societal pressures and obsession for women to be thin. I’m glad you have “rebirthed” your blog. I really loved your last post! :)

  40. What a great conversation you’ve got going here, Bella. Your blog is so inviting, to me it is a place where you invite people to share their thoughts and opinions. It’s wonderful! I think commenting patterns, whether people do or don’t is fascinating. I think some blogs/blog posts are easier to comment on than others. I try not to read too much into whether people comment or not. But it’s nice to know people are reading and are connected to what I’m writing. Sometimes people don’t know what to say. I have a few posts I know people have come to, kind of off the beaten path posts, and yet they don’t receive comments. I think it’s because these are emotional posts and people might be afraid to say the wrong thing.

    1. Patrice, you know what’s even better? When people like you drop by and share those thoughts and opinions! I love having you drop in, lady! Your sass and spunk add such liveliness to our discussions! I agree that some emotional posts tend to make people a little wary but that shouldn’t be a reason for us not to put our emotional state into words. Like you said, we can’t read too much into if people comment or not. I mean, it’s great when they comment but if someone feels a topic is too emotionally charged and they opt not to, then that’s okay too. We’ll still love them, right, Patrice? :)

  41. Good post, Bella. I don’t believe comments should be the yard stick a writer measures their net writing worth by. I am always surprised to see comments to my posts. I am not a one size fits all writer–I could be but then I wouldn’t enjoy the writing as much–but I am always flattered when someone leaves behind traces of their visit. My blog has more visitors than comments, which is equally flattering to my writer’s heart. I wouldn’t be blogging if not for the books. As I market my first book and ride that roller coaster the digital footprint allows potential agents to get a feel for me. So far so good since I have pages out to three interested agents. The blog helps me in that respect. What I enjoy as much as the exploration are the comments because they are often the impetus behind a new post. Monica an Bev’s comments last week to a poem I wrote about a woman’s strength inspired me to continue exploring. All writers, regardless of the genre they write, LOVE getting feedback and hearing from their readers.

    1. Brenda, what exciting news! I know it won’t be long now before they scoop up your book! I’m with you–visitors are just as worthy but like you mention, it always leaves one feeling good when we read comments left by readers. I know your main reason for blogging is your book but I’m glad that you have the blog as an outlet for your creative juices. Tobias refused to be put the rest unless he’s the one who wants to rest, right? hee hee! I’m with you–feedback is priceless. I thrive on the feedback I get from my readers! :)

  42. You’ve already gotten enough comments to validate the value of this post–ha! But I will say that I, too, remember that first stranger comment and how excited I was. So while I comment on different posts for different reasons, I try to make the effort to comment on blogs I think are good but not getting much traffic. I like to be that encouraging voice for someone else. So glad I discovered your blog. I look forward to reading more.

    1. Galen, I love, love that you act as an encouraging voice for those who don’t have much traffic! Good for you! This is what blogging’s about–writers supporting and encouraging one another. I too like to leave comments on blogs that don’t have a lot because I think it confirms that there are readers interested in what the blogger has to say. I’m glad you discovered my blog! I look forward to having you join the conversation often! :)

  43. Wiat a nice read, I wish i was a writer like you, Bella! Like you’ve said, its always encouraging to see comments on ones posts even the ‘great post’ type. I always comment on most blog posts if not all that i read as i came to learn how important Bloggers loved varied opinions from different readers and also commendations for encouragement.

    1. Odhiambo, hello and welcome! You’re so right, my friend, bloggers love different opinions and encouragement! I know I do! Thank you for your kind words. My heart smiles reading your beautiful compliment! :)

  44. I haven’t stopped by in awhile. Don’t worry, Bella. You’re not the only one I’ve been ignoring. First, I’d like to say Roxy looks lovely in pink. Second, this is a topic I mull over frequently. I’m not saying I’m the world’s best blogger, but sometimes I read posts that sound like they were put together in 15 minutes or not edited at all. But they have 56 comments in two hours. I study them trying to figure this out. But I can’t. I’m not a niche blogger (like writers writing for other writers), so it’s a little harder to find my audience. But I love to have the conversation that comments mean. I love the instant feedback of blog comments. So much so that I spend too much time on my blog and not enough time on my other writing projects that don’e give me an immediate reaction.

    1. Julie, you’ve made me chuckle with the “fifteen minute blog post that has 56 comments in two hours”! hahaha! I love it! Why do you think that is? I’m still scratching my head. I can only surmise that the blogger has a lot of loyal friends! hee hee! I agree with you–it is a lot more difficult to blog when you don’t have a niche. But I think it’s also good that one doesn’t have a niche. It makes us a lot more versatile, don’t you think? Thanks for the feedback, lady! It is much appreciated, as is your visit! :)

  45. Hi Bella! One of the things that I really, really like (and admire) about you and your blog is you are so warm and I think readers feel welcome to leave comments. I don’t always feel that way, particularly when I come across a blogger that makes a habit out of not replying — it makes me less likely to leave a comment. I also find myself reading through the comments here — there’s really good conversation on your blog! :)

    1. Lady, I so agree with you! I don’t make a habit of leaving comments on blogs where the blogger doesn’t comment. The only exception I might make is in the case of blogs that have hundreds of comments and it really is unrealistic to expect that the blogger reply to everyone. Also, I find that fashion bloggers don’t reply too much either. But again, that’s fine by me because I find these blogs also have a lot of comments. I am smiling from ear to ear at your sweet words. Thank you! Isn’t the conversation we have going on here lovely? I swear, I just got my second cup of coffee before I sat down to join in! :)

  46. Comments ARE great! My favorite part is how we form friendships through them. I’ve gotten to know so many fun, creative people (like you!) because of blogs and comments. I don’t think I’ll ever get tired of it!

    1. Nora, you’re a sweetheart! Thank you for your kind words. I think the friendships we establish through commenting on each other’s work is just like a real friendship! People are kind, receptive, and helpful. What more could we ask for, right? :)

  47. Just the mechanics of leaving comments makes a difference. A system like yours or Disqus makes it easy. But if I have to deal with the Blogger format and sign in, then do a word verification — the post had better have given me a damn orgasm or I’m onto the next. Also, with the Blogger format, if you leave a response to my comment, I don’t know about it and will not likely check back to see. Disqus will send me an ea-mail with your response. We all read a lot of blogs and usually have a limited amount of time. My best advice is make leaving a comment as easy as possible. Like Nora, the interaction with others is the best part of blogging for me. For years I wrote for television, which was great but many times I’d work for months on a script only to have it not go. I still got paid, but the work was about as creatively satisfying as being a bricklayer in Beirut. Feedback is important to a writer. It is a lonely damn job and that connection to the reader makes all the difference. Also, I always respond to comments. I consider it not only good manners, but part of building friendships, and I’ve made some amazing friends in this glorious blogosphere.

    1. Jayne, let me say that your comment had me rolling on the floor laughing! I am with you, sister! I’m sorry for our fellow bloggers justing Blogger word verification but I’ve about to throw in the towel! The other day I had to try to decipher at least six of those mumbled letter conglomeration before finally getting it right! I swear, the only thing that allowed me to persevere was the fact that I was not going to let it kick my ass! But really, I almost had a seizure from trying to make sense of it all! I wholeheartedly agree with you regarding how responding to comments is not only courteous but a way to make friends. There’s no better way to explain it. I’m so glad you dropped by! :)

  48. LOVE, that is what prompts me to comment (smile) – I love your blog, your voice and Miss Roxy Lee. I sometimes get behind commenting on a fave blog, but I will go back and catch up all the posts I missed.

    I used to network like crazy but it began to take up all my time – so I stopped. Either they want to be there or they don’t. I always comment on bloggers sites who comment on mine because they cared enough to take time to comment on my site – so thrilling.

    1. Nan, I love how you love, sister! Amen to your comment on networking! Exhausting! I’m with you–readers that are loyal and like what we write will return and visit. Now that I’m sharing the laptop with the Son, I find myself in the same pickle as you–playing catch up with missed posts. Hopefully, summer break will being soon and I’ll have more time. I miss reading my favorite blogs regularly! Little Roxy wanted me to tell you that your sweet words get a tail wag from her! hee hee! :)

  49. Ola Bella,

    I love this post soooo much. The whole thing resonates with me but my favorite line is “We rise because the need to express ourselves is greater than the feeling of defeat”. ABSOLUTELY. For me, it strikes at the core of who I am as a writer which is an irrefutable part of me like the color of my eyes.

    Reading this post affirmed what I already knew, you are a wonderful writer who so often strikes at the heart of an issue with humor and a seemingly effortless articulation.

    I don’t have a satisfactory answer to your questions, although I can say that I’ve spent a good deal of time contemplating them lol. I don’t believe there is a strict formula but a confluence of things. I have gained more followers as a result of social media but my core readership, those I’ve established relationships with, remain the ones who provide me with feedback. Also, in the blogosphere, it seems that only fellow bloggers understand the importance of comments.

    I don’t know the answer to your questions.

    1. So much for typing on my droid! Try as I might I couldn’t erase the last line lol. I have a feeling it has something to do with my verbosity. What can I say? I missed you ;)

    2. Coco, you’re back! I’ve missed you, girl! I’ve so missed you! Thank you for your uplifting words. I’m delighted this post resonated with you. I think that it touches upon something that we’ve thought about at one point or another. I don’t have all the answers either. I think that it’s safe to say that readers respond to well written posts, a blogger who engages her or his audience, as well as one who shows courtesy in replying to comments. I think these expectations are more than fair, don’t you? Social networks help us to promote our posts. I really should make more of an effort to use them! :)

  50. I began blogging some years ago as an outlet for my REAL views when I was working in a job where it was essential that my personal views on things stay unspoken. So, a bit like your comment from averageinsuburbia, it was really for me and I didn’t care who read it.

    But then, a year or so in, I had a regular reader who would post long, negative rants, not necessarily disagreeing with me, but using my blog as a channel for his anger. It just took away all the fun of writing creatively, so I relate to what totsymae1011 said about negativity in comments.That blog has slipped into a period of slumber and I haven’t posted for nearly two months.

    I’ve now begun a new blog really to catalogue my travels and promote the people, places and, above all, the coffee shops and tea rooms I visit. At the moment, I’m focusing more on numbers of readers, like Brenda Moguez, but I do enjoy the occasional ‘like’ and the even more occasional comment.

    I think different blog styles lend themselves to different reader experiences. Judging by this entry, yours is clearly one that taps into the psyche and every day life of all bloggers at some point. Happy to begin following you – but next time, I must join the conversation earlier (it took me three times as long to skim through all the comments as it did to read your original post!)

    1. Fancy, I’m so sorry that negative comments made you lose the desire to write creatively. That’s a shame! I was able to visit your blog and I very much enjoyed your recommendations for the coffee shops and tea rooms! I think your blog is right up my alley! hee hee! I’m glad you’ve found a new niche and are now working on acquiring new readers. By all means, join the conversation whenever you like! It’s always great to have your feedback! :)

  51. Well, it’s clear that you have a lot of people out here ready to say that they love what you have to say and I am one of them. Comments do matter but I know that I have gotten a lot of comments are lesser posts and very few on some that I was most proud. I don’t know if it’s timing or what. So you’re right, the number of comments is not an indication of your skills as a writer but I do want to say that I am happy to “listen”. and comment.

    :-)
    Traci

    1. Traci, I’m happy that you’re happy to listen and comment! I think you may be right regarding the importance of timing with some posts. I find that it’s best to post during the week at times because people tend to be otherwise engaged on the weekend. Other times, Sunday is a great day so I think that in addition to timing, luck may also have something to do with it! :)

  52. Although I don’t blog just to get comments, it is nice to see someone has taken the time to write a little something and acknowledge what you’ve said. I love the communities that build up around commenting. And I’m thankful you are so nice to always take a few minutes to leave kind words. Thank you!

    1. Leah, thank you for your kind words. I’m really looking forward to the culmination of this semester so that I can regain more control of my laptop since the Son will require it less for his studies. I agree with you regarding how comments demonstrate that readers care. To me, they’re also a great way to validate a writer. I’m so glad you dropped by and added to the mix! :)

  53. Back again to see where the conversation went. As one of those Blogger bloggers, I have to agree that their comment system isn’t the best. I can’t get it to thread, although I thought it was supposed to. I’m NOT a fan of captcha and don’t have it on mine. I even allow anonymous posting because the spam filter seems to be catching it. I don’t want any barriers to comments. I am driven crazy when I’ve gone through the trouble of commenting, then wrestling with the captcha words only to see “post will appear after moderation.” WTF? Why moderate a post? I thought those stupid word puzzles were supposed to catch the spam?

    1. Julie, I’m so glad you don’t have the captcha on your blog! It’s truly annoying when we have to jump through hoops to leave a comment on a blog. I also agree with you in regard to comment moderation. I believe being able to immediately see your comment on someone’s blog is one of the most gratifying things for a commenter. Comment moderation seems to ruin the fun! I don’t moderate comments. I figure that if someone leaves a hate comment or something I find offensive, I can just delete it. I’m happy that WordPress has Akismet. It catches almost all spam! :)

  54. I love comments! I didn’t know when I started blogging how enjoyable it would be to interact with my readers. So far I haven’t had to deal with negative comments, even though I’ve tackled some controversial subjects. Of course, that probably means I don’t have enough readers yet! :) I did “blacklist” one reader, but that’s a long and weird story.

    I always enjoy your posts, which makes it easy to comment. If I have nothing to add or am bored by a post, I skip it. And, some days I am overloaded with blogs to read, so I may skip reading some posts in favor of others just for time management’s sake.

    1. Nadine, thank you for your kind words. I’m delighted you like my posts! And I agree–interacting with readers is one of the best things about blogging. Some day, over a cup of coffee or tea, I hope we can sit down and you can tell me about the “long and weird story” of why you had to blacklist a reader! hee hee! :)

  55. Bella-love, I’ve been noticing a well-deserved trend… your traffic, at least as far as I can see on comments, is Increasing! Woot woot!!! And I know exactly why… your ability to hit a subject spot on AND ask a thought-provoking question about said topic. For me, I only comment when something I’ve read provokes an answer in me and you always do. Keep blogging it out, girlfriend!

    1. Lori, I love how supportive you are of everyone and how you always offer encouragement! I think that says so much about you, sister! Thank you! I’m happy that traffic seems to increase on this wee blog from time to time. It motivates me to keep writing and thinking of ways to engage my readers. Thanks for making my day, lady! :)

  56. Bella, one of the things I admire so much about you is the thoughtfulness of your comments and the great way you respond to them too. I’m learning (very slowly) from you. ♥

    1. Corinne, you are beautiful inside and out and that transmits in the way you write, comment, and offer assistance. You have helped me so much and I want you to know that I will forever be grateful for your support! In regard to how you’re learning from me, I think it’s the other way around! Hugs! :)

  57. I think comments are great. They are like a nice pat on the back. They tell us that someone noticed us and that someone cares about us. They help us feel like we belong in blogger land and that we count and have something worthwhile to offer. I love commenting just to maybe make someone’s day! Thanks for the great post!

    1. Nicole, hello and welcome! I love how you’ve neatly summed up why comments are great! I think the “pat on the back” is the ideal description for a comment and you’re right–they do help us feel embraced by the blogging community. I’m delighted you liked the post and that you joined the conversation! :)

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