When we last met, Roxy was chasing a pup into the cemetery...
The minute the Significant Other and I saw the man and his furry friend, we stopped in our tracks.
I heard the Significant Other mutter, “I just gave chase to this one and her cohort and I am in no condition to do another back breaking sprint.”
We tentatively took a few steps. I whispered to Roxy and pleaded with her to be nice.
The man and his furry friend came closer.
Until they were a foot in front of us.
Roxy, in her usual modus operandi, leaned in close. This time, the other dog did not pull away. He lifted a paw and gave a sharp bark. Soon, the two were playfully running in circles.
No teeth were barred.
No growl was heard.
Just two furry friends who had connected instantly.
Watching the scene unfold, I was reminded of how many times we humans react similarly to Roxy.
The moment we feel we are not being appreciated, liked, or acknowledged, we become angry. We lash out. We say unkind words to the person who is making us to feel this way.
We are so busy feeling nursing our hurt pride, that we don’t realize what a huge waste of time it is to expend energy on something so trivial.
If only we took a minute to process the scene before us, we’d realize that the person who is ignoring us does not have the power to render us powerless.
If we took a moment to process our indignation, we’d realize we’re reacting this way because we are letting ego get in the way. We are taking things personally and allowing the actions of others to dictate how we feel. And in the process, we are allowing our insecurities to rise to the surface.
If we recognize that we have no control over how others act or feel, we’d realize that the only one we are responsible for is us.
Had Roxy chosen to ignore and walk past the dog that snubbed her, she wouldn’t have been involved in the gnarly dog chase that ensued; she wouldn’t have pursued someone who simply wasn’t interested.
Likewise, if we recognize that it’s not a given that everyone we meet will like us, we will spare ourselves a lot of angst and frustration.
If we are able to dismiss those who cannot appreciate all we have to offer, we will realize that only we are responsible for allowing others to make us feel bad about ourselves.
In taking back our power, we will discover that our sense of being does not have to be disrupted. Instead, it can remain tranquil, at peace, the way it’s supposed to be. We will realize we don’t have to spin out of control and lose our cool.
And like Roxy, we might discover that sooner or later, someone who is smart enough to truly appreciate us will come along.
Are you ready to take back your power?
Captures of the place where Roxy lost her cool.